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Are You Living By Your Values?

by | #TellHisStory, Christian Living, Faith, Family, Friendship | 12 comments

The conversation began about a piano. And misplaced values.

A couple of weeks ago, my husband texted me from work and asked me to see if friends of ours wanted a free piano from one of his co-workers. They declined due to a lack of space. I relayed the message and mentioned if we had room, I’d consider taking it because I’ve always wanted to learn how to play the piano. He replied, “Honey, you have your plate double-stacked already.”

That evening, we took a walk in the park after dinner. During the course of our conversation, I mentioned his comment from earlier in the day and told him how much I appreciated the way he watched out for me. Then, my husband said something that really made me think, “You’re so quick to help others, but your generosity affects the time you need to get your writing and your work done. Then that means you’re working or writing in the evenings, which cuts into our time.”

My husband—my partner in life and my best voice of reason—helped me to see I had fallen out of the habit of living by my values.

While faith, family, and friendships have been my core values for nearly three decades, I learned about living a values-based life a couple of years ago from Susan May Warren, and it changed my life for the better.

I learned about living a values-based life a couple of years ago from @susanmaywarren, and it changed my life for the better. #TellHisStory #ValuesBasedLiving Click To Tweet

Bench at park with hydrangea bush at sunset

Values-Based Living

As do all of you who are reading this post, I lead a busy life. From the moment my hand shuts off the 6 AM alarm, I’m busy until I reset that alarm for the next morning. Caring for my family, walking with the Lord, maintaining my health, meeting book deadlines, deepening relationships, and getting my work done each day, it’s a lot to stay on top of. And that’s why values-based planning has helped me to stay focused and able to prioritize what needs to be done. The greatest tools in my values-based living arsenal are my Bible and my brilliant writing planner.

A value is someone’s standard of behavior that causes us to act in one way or another. When we live according to our values, we are living according to Philippians 4:8 (NIV):

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Discovering Your Values

Do you know what your values are? Do you know how to find them? Look at your life. How do you spend your time? When you have downtime, who do you want to spend it with? How do you spend your money? What about your goals and dreams? When you’re facing life’s challenges, how do you react? What brings you joy?

Taking time to answer these questions will help you to discover your values, Like I mentioned previously, I value faith, family, and friendships. But I also value my writing, my health, my job, and being creative.

White hydrangea bush

Living Out Your Values

Knowing my values, I’m able to plan my time accordingly in order to live a more peaceful, impactful life. I choose to get out of bed and make breakfast for my husband while he gets ready for work. I make his lunch, and when he returns home, dinner is nearly ready. These speak to my value of family. I can break that value of family down by label–wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt.

Knowing my values, I'm able to plan my time accordingly in order to live a more peaceful, impactful life. #TellHisStory #Valuesbasedliving Click To Tweet

Once he heads off to work, I spend time with the Lord, which speaks to my value of faith. When I don’t surrender my day and to-do list to the Lord, then I’m not allowing Him to work in my life. I do my daily workout, which speaks to my value of health and self-care. Then I tidy our home, which speaks again to my value of family. I spend two hours working on my current book, which speaks to my value of writing. I check in with friends, which speaks to my value of friendship. After lunch, I begin my day job, which speaks to my value of work, and then I close my computer when my husband calls on his way home from work. Our conversation during his commute is one of my favorite parts of the day. Then there’s dinner and free time when I can do card making or some other creative activity. By the time I crawl into bed, I’ve lived according to my values. And I can sleep with peace in my heart.

However, life doesn’t always follow a neatly written to-do list, does it? So how do we live within our values when our lives are falling apart? Lean into Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV):

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Balancing Our Values

There are days when we need to shuffle our time to order to handle challenges or life emergencies. And those changes can leave us feeling unsettled. However, we can still live by our values even when life turns us on our heads. Because it’s not about a to-do list. It’s about living a life ordained by the One who gave us life. Sometimes we have to balance relationships with productivity. Sometimes we have to set deadlines aside to meet with a grieving friend. Sometimes we have to let the dishes in the sink pile up in order to take a parent to the doctor…again.

As I contemplate my values-based living, I needed to ensure I protected my time with my husband in the evenings. While I do have a few monthly commitments that take place after dinner, for the most part, I make sure my writing and work are done by the time he heads home from work. And I do that because I value my relationship with him.

God has created us for relationships with Him and with others. He also gave us gifts and talents and has a plan and a purpose for each one of us. When we lean into Him and allow Him to order our steps, then living a values-based life draws us deeper into His embrace. We are able to reflect His life and His love, giving Him the glory. And that’s what living a values-based life is all about.

(This is an overview, and I’ll dive deeper into living by your values in my next post.)

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What about you? How do you live by your values?

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12 Comments

  1. Linda Stoll

    A look at our calendar, prayer life, checkbook, social media, friendships, reading and viewing preferences tells us maybe more than we realize. Your wise words encourage us to reevaluate what we prize most and then live like we believe it.

    Lisa, thanks for taking us there this morning. I’m doing a bit of soul searching even as we speak …

    • Lisa Jordan

      Linda, I’m glad you appreciated the post. As you do your soul searching, may God reveal Himself in a mighty way.

  2. Joanne Viola

    I so appreciate the nudge to reevaluate my priorities. May the Lord keep us balanced in all we do, and don’t do 🙂

    • Lisa Jordan

      Joanne, life is a constant balancing act, isn’t it? I’m so thankful for the One who remains consistent when everything else can feel topsy-turvy at times. May your priorities be those He places on your heart.

  3. Barbara Harper

    I’m reading a book along the same lines. We need to frequently evaluate whether we’re keeping the main things in view. It’s hardest when values seem to sometimes clash, but God will give wisdom as we seek Him.

    • Lisa Jordan

      Barbara, you’re so right–God does give us wisdom when we ask. What’s the name of the book you’re reading?

  4. Michele Morin

    Love this challenge toward values-based living! It really gives me a WHY for all the parts of life.

  5. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    I lately had to ask myself
    exactly where my values are;
    did I place them on a shelf,
    or sell them like a worn-out car?
    The old bright days of certainty
    have gone like rainbows in the haze.
    Will I spend what seems eternity
    as a mouse adrift in studied maze
    a-search down endless corridors
    for a trophy that will please,
    pushing hard on one-way doors
    behind which lies the scent of cheese?
    Can I return to blood and bone,
    look up, and there see Heaven’s throne?

  6. Jan

    I know you! I love my routine and my agendas …but prioritizing is key to living according to our values. Great post!

  7. Lois Flowers

    Lisa, I’ve never had a name for it before, but I think I try to live this way too. I also have a husband who helps me remember who I am and what I value. And what a blessing that is. 🙂

  8. Tea With Jennifer

    Thank you for sharing this today Lisa. A timely confirmation of what God has been showing me too ☺️
    Bless you,
    Jennifer

  9. Tammy L Kennington

    Good morning, Lisa.

    Something for me to consider right now…Thank you for the encouragement.

    Blessings,
    Tammy