I am a submissive wife. By choice.
That does not mean I am a doormat to be used in any way by my husband.
Ephesians 5: 22 reads, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”
The way I believe this is misinterpreted is many people focus on the first part of that verse and disregard the second half. To me, the second half is the most important part.
I honor my husband as the head of our household. He manages our finances and has final say in weighty matters. As his wife, I submit to his leading in that regard.
Because I love him. We discuss decisions and come to an agreement. If we don’t come to an agreement, I try to get him to see things from my point of view, and he does the same. Then we decide to what is best for our family, home, finances. Sometimes it’s not the way I would want, but I respect his decisions.
Submitting to my husband does not mean I cower in fear at his wrath. Submitting does not give him the right to abuse me for his pleasure. Submitting does not mean I’m a “Yes, Sir.” kind of wife.
Submitting means loving him openly and honestly. Submitting means showing him the honor and respect he deserves. Submitting means appreciating his role as head of our household.
I am a submissive daughter to my Heavenly Father because I love him. He knows what is best for my life, and I need to respect His decisions. I don’t always like them, but I respect them.
My husband and I have a healthy marriage. Yes, there’s always room for improvement, but he has never broken my trust in him, nor has he treated me in any inappropriate manner. After 22 years, I love him more than the day I married him. I admire his strength, his courage, his willingness to compromise. Knowing his traits, I’m honored to be his submissive wife.
Your Turn: What does being a submissive wife mean to you?