When God took that rib from Adam and formed woman, did He tuck in a little extra something like the belief that we have to be the perfect Proverbs 31 woman?
No, I don’t think He did.
In fact, I believe we women have created this idealistic image of how we are supposed to power through our days with superhuman abilities. We think we’re supposed to be amazing jugglers of faith, family, careers and friendships. And when we fail at something, we beat ourselves up.
Ever have one of those days where nothing goes right–the alarm didn’t go off, the kids missed the bus, hubby forgot his lunch, the car won’t start, you forgot to make the dessert for the ladies Bible study, and to top it off, your child has a concert at school on the same night you already promised the boss you’d stay late to work on a project that’s critical.
Then you fall into bed exhausted after doing dinner, a load of laundry from the weekend, homework. And your man gives you that eyebrow waggle to suggest more to come. Uh uh, back off, big boy.
Here’s the truth about the Proverbs 31 woman … no one expects you to be perfect. Like I said in the beginning, we tend to form idealistic images in our heads of what kind of women we need to be.
If your day starts off badly, it’s so easy to let that stress snowball until you’re begging for a do-over.
Jesus is the only Perfect One. No place in the Bible commands us to be super heroes. When we strive to be Wonder Women, then we’re telling Jesus we can handle this and He’s not needed. But that’s so not true. Jesus wants us to come to Him with everything–good days and bad, difficulties in juggling all of our responsibilities. He wants us to lean on Him for support.
The true Proverbs 31 humbles herself before the Lord and goes to Him in prayer and thanksgiving. She strives to be the women He created her to be. She learns from her mistakes. Her character grows through experience and maturity. Sure, she’s bound to stumble, but knows all she has to do is stretch her hand for God to help her back up. The true Proverbs 31 isn’t perfect and doesn’t try to be.
So cut yourself some slack and lower the bar on your expectations. And know you’re not alone.
Your Turn: What is your interpretation of the Proverbs 31 woman? Do you feel today’s woman needs to be Wonder Woman? What words of wisdom do you have to offer?