Keeping Everyday Romance Alive

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Hubby taking our photo outside The Bubble Room on Captiva Island, FL.
This habit started 23 years ago when we were dating. 

Sanibel Island is one of our favorite places to vacation. If our budget could afford it, we would go every year. Instead we try to go every other. What makes the quaint island so special is we treat as an indulgence to be savored while we’re vacationing. That keeps the magic alive. 
Some things in life happen every day, but need to be treated as indulgences in order to be savored and kept special. Romance is one of those.
Romance is that fluttering in your stomach that you associate with love. Those moments that snatch your breath and make your heart sigh. Romance isn’t limited to Valentine’s Day or anniversaries. 
With crazy schedules, mountains of laundry, dinners to fix, homework to check, romance can be pushed to the wayside. But you don’t have to indulge in the grand gesture to be romantic. 

¤ Beginning your day with a simple “I love you” and a good morning kiss go a long way in keeping that spark alive throughout the day. 

¤ A quick text or email lets your person know he/she is in your thoughts.  

¤ For me, romance is watching my hubby fix dinner while I’m working on revisions or just plain tired from my crazy day. Or seeing him fold laundry with military precision will cause my heart rate to spike.

¤ Men are physical creatures–at least, mine is. A neck massage followed by a hug encourages that non-verbal communication. Holding hands while walking through the grocery store makes an obligatory job a little more fun. 

¤ Laugh together over a favorite movie or familiar memory. Or share something new. Go beyond talking about the kids, the house, the utilities and focus on each other–even if it’s for five minutes. 

¤ Taking time for each other will strengthen your relationship and cement the bond you share. 
Your Turn: How do you keep the everyday romance alive?
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  1. Keli Gwyn

    My hubby and I leave little notes for each other on our placemats. Gwynly outdid himself recently, though. He wrote me a short love note on our bathroom mirror, which is a first. That totally mushed this romance writer out. After all words are my thing–as well as being my love language. I'm going to have a very hard time making myself wash that mirror. =)

  2. Katie Ganshert

    I so agree with you – the way to my heart is through laundry or cooking! My hubby took my son all morning on Saturday – they had a boy's day out so I could work on writing. He's the best.

  3. Eileen Astels Watson

    Love your thoughts here, Lisa!

    I bbm'd hubby while reading this post!

    You're so right, it's in the little things that we keep romance alive. Hubby and I make lunch dates every once in awhile as a special way of saying "we're" important. you need that alone time away from the kids to keep the romance alive, too!

  4. Erica Vetsch

    Yep, my heart goes pitter-pat when my husband folds the laundry. 🙂

    Today is my husband's birthday, and I'm making turkey with all the trimmings, because that's his favorite meal.

  5. Jessica R. Patch

    Another great post! I love the things you do!

    We leave notes and fun texts, although, be careful what you text and make sure you're texting the right person! lol

    We have one night a week we eat dinner out and date night once a month, even if it's just coffee somewhere–depends on the budget.

    Keep your romance post coming! I heart them. 🙂

  6. Wendy Paine Miller

    I tell my man often how attracted I am to him. He still does it for me, what can I say? 😉

    Our church does this rockin' cool thing by hosting kids once a month (AND FEEDING THEM…all for FREE) so parents can get out together. I swear, they are improving marriages.

    ~ Wendy

  7. Donna

    Awesome wisdom in your post, Lisa! Romance is needed and so very important in marriage.

  8. Jeannie Campbell, LMFT

    hey…all my cool peeps are hanging out over here! 🙂

    hey lisa…love the blog look!

    for my husband and i, we do a lot of the texting…funny lines from movies, thinking of yous, love yous…makes me feel so good. 🙂

    the character therapist