When Infatuation Becomes Real Love: Reasons Why I Love My Husband

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Hubby & I in Sanibel, FL.

Hubby & I in Sanibel, FL.

When I was nineteen, I fell in love with this sexy Marine. From the moment he walked through the door in that blue and white striped shirt and blue pants (Miami Vice era), I was captivated by the way he carried himself with confidence. 

Once I started talking with him, I was intrigued by his kind heart, quick smile and wonderful sense of humor. 

Since that fateful summer’s night, we’ve been married for almost twenty-three years. Some people said our marriage wouldn’t last. At one point, it nearly didn’t, but I married a true real-life hero, whom I thank God for on a daily basis. 

At the beginning of the week, Fawn from Happy Wives Club contacted me and asked me to be a part of her Happy Wives Club Link Up Party for Reasons Why I Love My Husband. 

Listing reasons in my head is easy, but to put them in a post, I wanted to articulate what my husband really means to me.

  • He loves me unconditionally. He is my true real-life hero who refused to allow a dark time ruin our marriage. He loves me in spite of my flaws, wrinkles and broader curves.
  • He makes me feel secure. Hubby is 6’1″ and I’m 5’5″. When he wraps his arms around me, I feel secure physically and emotionally. I know he’ll protect me. He gave me security when I needed it most. 
  • He is a wonderful father. We have two boys, and one looks like him and the other has his traits. They have been shown what a strong marriage looks like. Of course, there are things every parent could change, but he is the right father for them.
  • He is my Voice of Reason. I am quick to make decisions with my heart, but he takes the time to process the information and helps me to reason out the best decision.
  • He has a strong work ethic. When Hubby lost his job a few years ago due to economic downsizing, he decided to return to school to get his degree. He graduated with honors, then spent months searching for the right job. About nine months later, God rewarded his efforts, opening a door that uses his degree while giving us steady pay and decent benefits. 
  • He is financially responsible. Hubby is our home’s chief financial officer. With one eye on the future, he pays our bills on time and has money set aside for retirement. Even while he wasn’t working, we were able to meet our monthly outcome and pay off debt. Yes, at times, I stress a little about money, but God has been meeting our needs.
  • He supports my writing. From the first moment I told him I wanted to be a writer, he supported my dream. Once I signed my first contract, he has been my biggest cheerleader. When my books came out, he kept signed copies in his truck to sell to friends and co-workers. He rejoices in my successes and gifts me with things that show how much he cares about making my writing a success.
  • My "postcard" to Hubby while I was at a retreat in S.C.

    My “postcard” to Hubby while I was at a retreat in S.C.

    He is creative. Hubby is an artist in his own right. With his big hands and large fingers, he’s able to tie intricate flies for fishing, using quality materials. Yes, those hooks with bits of fur and feathers will get dunked in local streams and rivers for the trout and bass to feast, but they are true works of art. He ties professionally for local stores, and his name is known in fly tying circles. He attends fly tying conferences like I attend writers conferences.   
  • He makes me laugh. One of the most special things about our marriage is we can laugh about little jokes no one else would understand. It adds a rich layer to our relationship. His dry wit can make me smile even when I’m cranky and not fit to be around anyone. 

I can spend hours waxing my hubby’s qualities, but I’ll end with this. I may have been infatuated with Hubby when we first met, but through the years, our love continues to deepen into a lasting emotion that goes beyond fairy tales and romance novels. Like any marriage, there’s always room for improvement. But we have a love that has been challenged, a love that has been showered with tears, and a love that has been lifted with laughter. I don’t doubt his love for me because he tells me and shows me daily. Each day is ripe for new beginnings and new memories to be made. That’s real love. And I thank God daily I share that kind of love with Hubby. 

I’m linking up with the Happy Wives Club Link Up Party. Be sure to click on the graphic to read the other posts in this party! 

Why I Love My Husband


If you’re married, what’s one thing you love about your spouse? If you’re not married, what is one trait you’re looking for in your future spouse?

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  1. Jill Kemerer

    This is so sweet, Lisa! Your love for your hubby is blaring out in this post. I love mine too. I think he’s the greatest guy in the world–and he is–the greatest guy just for me. 🙂

    • Lisa Jordan

      Jill, I love what you said…”the greatest guy just for me.” Our men may not be perfect, but they’re perfect for us!

  2. Delores Topliff

    Lisa, I really appreciate the special glimpses in this portrait that I hadn’t known before. In 8th grade our school offered many hobby-class options. Most girls (me, too) chose tie-flying taught by a very handsome Olympics-athlete teacher. Yes, we actually produced ties. So glad for your home and marriage.

    • Lisa Jordan

      Dee, I’m not surprised that you’ve done fly tying. You’re such an amazing woman. Thank you for continuously praying over my home, marriage and family!

  3. Amy Leigh Simpson

    Aww…so sweet! Making me think about all the wonderful things I love about my own husband. One that stands out the most is hite laid back and easy going he is. He calms me with and makes me feel like the best version of my self. Loved this post, lady!

    • Lisa Jordan

      Amy, I know what you mean about laid back! My hubby’s the same way. That’s why he’s my Voice of Reason. Thanks for visiting!

  4. Lindsay Harrel

    Oh, how sweet, Lisa!!

    I love mine because…well, he’s my best friend. I really feel like I can tell him anything, and he listens and doesn’t make me feel stupid. He supports my dreams too. I’m super blessed!

    • Lisa Jordan

      LindsAy, I love what you said about your hubby listening without making you feel stupid. That’s such a vital part of any relationship. I love reading about your relationship with your hubby.

  5. Jenilee

    This is so sweet! What a wonderful post about your hubby. I hope he reads it! 🙂 Now I’m curious about your books as well!! I’ll be checking them out!

    • Lisa Jordan

      Jenilee, I’ll let hubby know I blogged about him. He may read, but I doubt he’ll comment. Thanks for checking out my books. I hope you enjoy them. 🙂 Thanks for visiting.

  6. Jessica R. Patch

    Oh I just love this! My husband is self-sacrificing whether it’s selling something he loves to make sure I can do an extra activity like ACFW or running to the store after he’s already climbed in bed because my throat hurts and we don’t have any cough drops. He’s always willing to put himself last for me and our children.

    • Lisa Jordan

      Jesse, after reading your guest post about the dog doo, your hubby is nearing sainthood. He sounds like a great guy!

  7. Fawn Weaver

    Love, love, love this list! And I love how others are encouraged by reading your post to also think of all the reasons they love and adore their spouse. I think we may be on to something here! Thanks, Lisa, for linking up. Truly!

    • Lisa Jordan

      Fawn, thanks so much for inviting me to participate. I’m so excited to celebrate our spouses. It’s so easy to take one another for granted.

  8. Ande Lyons


    I LOVE HEA endings… thank you for sharing yours!

    Your #1 reason is mine, too. There is nothing like the feeling where you KNOW you are loved, no matter what. Especially during perimenopause! 😀

    Wishing you joy, love, laughter and continued happiness with all your amazing HEA adventures!


    • Lisa Jordan

      Ande, I’m such a HEA girl. That’s why I write HEA romance. Thank you for your sweet wishes and visiting my blog. I’m off to read your post now! Linking parties are so much fun!

  9. Alena

    Love true love stories! They are true – love inspired stories :0).

    I love my hubby because he is diligent in his pursuit of God. He refuses to compromise even when its not socially acceptable. After 21 years my favorite times are the times to talk, snuggle and laugh. We laugh a-lot.

    Oh, and I totally get the “loves the broader curves”. I met and fell in love when I was nineteen also, and today these curves are definitely broader.

    Alena T.

  10. Wendy

    Wow, most of that sounds eerily familiar! Mine was Air Force, not Marine, and he doesn’t tie fishing flies, but I was 19 when we met, and it was love at first sight. Nice to know it’s not just me!

  11. Sherrinda

    He definitely sounds like a keeper! I love hearing about loving marriages like yours…thank you for sharing!